4 Steps to Overcome Self-sabotage

Have you ever come across a situation where your fear and anxiety preclude you from taking up a new project or any decision that might put you in a good position? Did you ever find yourself among the chaos of past experiences limiting your potential? 

Is it Intuition Or Fear?

According to a survey, about 39% of people surveyed would not pursue their dream job out of their fear, while 14% accepted that their fear negatively affected their careers. This is something that limits your chances to attract more of the positive things in life.

Often, what we feel is not valid. For example, you receive a project that you have been longing for long, and you know that it would open doors of growth for you, but suddenly, you get uncomfortable feelings about it that stop you from taking it up. So, you see, your fear and anxiety keep you away from what you believe could benefit you and this self-sabotaging behavior keeps you stuck with your money.

A common question that might pop in such situations are:

"What is that thing really stopping me from growing my finances?"

"Why do I feel confused/blocked about new opportunities? What can I do about it?"

"What do I need to do to overcome my anxiety about losing?"

"How can I achieve my dream financial goals? Is there any action plan I can follow?"

"Do my past experiences affect my future endeavors?"

"Is there something that I am missing or not seeing? If so, what is it?"

If you're the one seeking answers to the above-mentioned questions, this blog is for you. Before we dive into the strategies that will help you enjoy your quality of life, attain financial freedom, and get rid of any subconscious fear, it's essential to understand that the self-sabotaging behavior can mess up your finances by misleading you towards your underlying fears. Hence, it would help if you had a proper action plan with past success evidence so you can save up your cash and always stay financially independent.

Don't let your fear sabotage your success

Have you ever felt like you're the reason that you're not building enough wealth? Making money demands passion, dedication, and energetic flow. But, if you're anxious about taking your next step, you're going to mess up with your energy. Most of the time, you might even not realize that you are self-sabotaging your success because, after all, why would someone do that? But, still, many people do it knowingly or unknowingly. 

For example, you want to start your own business. You get excited at first, but when the time comes to make real decisions, you are expected to do something you haven't done before; you get anxious, and your fear overpowers your actions. This self-sabotaging behavior not only costs you with money stuff but also with the quality of life.

Here is what you can do to avoid holding onto fear:

• Adopt a positive mindset that drives your energy.
• Get in touch with the people who encourage you.
• Believe that you're worthy. 
• Learn to listen to your intuition instead of your fears.

Accept the new opportunities wholeheartedly

Has it ever happened to you that you feel so excited when you get a new opportunity/project at work? But as time passes, your enthusiasm vanishes into thin air so, you say to yourself, see, "I knew I could not do it, it has happened in the past too, I should not have taken up this project in the first place, and now I regret it.”

I know many of you can relate to this situation but what you don't know is that this limiting belief can limit your future growth opportunities. You might feel that you're not worthy or that's impossible for you, but remember that what your subconscious mind tells you might not be valid as well. Maybe it's time to get your hold off what happened in the past and start getting good at things so you feel confident about your worth.

Here is what you can do to avoid sabotaging behavior when you receive a great opportunity:

• Give it a try, at least before jumping to the outcome.
• Focus on your performance at the moment.
• Don't relate the current situation with the past one.
• Be afraid but do it anyway if your intuition tells you it is a good thing.

Avoid the fear of failure

Many people feel scared when they are about to make a huge jump in their career. Feelings of anxiety and restlessness keep them occupied because what if it didn't work out the way it planned?

Fear of failure is something you must be familiar with because this is why you're here. Right? Here, the important thing is to understand that the fear of failure stems from the fear of not being enough/worthy, which is just your thought. No one knows how things will take a turn, so; it's essential to focus on the current situation and separate your identity from the expected outcomes.

Here is what you can do to avoid your fear to lose:

• Even if you fail, there is a great chance that you learned a lot.
• Look at failure as a learned lesson, not a representation of yourself or value. 
• Your fear doesn't represent any truth about the outcome.
• Know that your fear can sabotage your financial stability. 

Change your subconscious beliefs

Has this ever happened to you that you opt for a decision that helps you be in an excellent financial position? Still, all of a sudden," something" lingers on your mind that reminds you of how you failed miserably in the past even though you tried your best.

Let me tell you that your manifested beliefs or fears are not ALWAYS true, and believing in them means self-sabotaging your finances. Therefore, it's essential to change your underlying thoughts and behaviors and not stay stuck with the money.

Here is what you can do to reject your manifested beliefs:

• Believe that your beliefs are not doing any good to you.
• Change your behavior to change your current beliefs.
• Write, or say positive affirmations out loud.
• Adopt the new habits that help you build financial wealth.

Build your wealth with the master financial plan

We often tend to believe in our past experiences whenever we find ourselves in a different situation. Here, it would help if you remembered that your fear is not a reliable thing; it's unclear, confusing, and eluding. Often it drifts away from the chances you could have to put you in a better position. So, next time when your fear is eluding you, ask yourself, "Why." This way, you will be able to understand the real essence of what's going around.

Staying financially stable requires patience, consistency, and above all, a master plan that not only helps you determine your long and short-term financial goals but also consists of strategies to achieve your goals in an optimum way. If you think you can keep track of your spending and saving and have money management skills, then you're good to go. But, if you're the one lost in a chaos of money crises, debt, and struggling with reaching your financial goals, then it would be best to seek assistance from a financial coach who can provide you a step-by-step guide on how you can achieve "true wealth" so, you can balance your life while working towards your end-goal of financial freedom.

As a financial coach, my goal is to help you improve your money management skills to avoid self-sabotaging behavior, pay off your debt, build financial wealth and achieve financial freedom without compromising your quality of life. If you want more knowledge on finance management, check out my Facebook group, where I talk about managing personal finances, saving up for an emergency fund, meeting financial goals, and achieving financial freedom.

So, are you ready to ditch your fear and regain your financial stability?